1. We have to name what we are feeling and accept these feelings. For example: I'm feeling sad. It is okay to feel sad, angry, frustrated and it is important not to act out those feelings. People acting out their anger for example is often how animals get hurt.
2. Learn from the feelings. What did I learn from the situation? Can I make any changes? Is there anyone I can ask for help? Is there a plan I can put into place?
3. Let Go. When we 'let go' we are making a genuine effort to do something different. For example we may need to list or say aloud what we are grateful for. There is something researchers call "deep acting" which can actually change our underlying feelings. Deep acting is not plastering on a fake smile and pretending, it is actually genuinely doing what it takes to change our feelings. Often this takes the form of distracting ourselves from the situation. Some examples of this are going to see a funny movie, putting on some fast music and dancing, and going for a walk. It is an activity that helps get you into a different emotional state.
Here is Benny discussing some possibilities for changing our emotional state:
And while he is considering how to get the other dogs to play with him, take a look at all the soft thick hair growing along his back.
Wishing you all the gift of letting go of the tough feelings,