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Benny Kisses!
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Saturday, June 25, 2011

Real fearlessness is the product of our tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your raw and beautiful heart.-Chogyam Trungpa

One of the main attributes of social intelligence is the inclination towards kindness and one of the main ingredients for kindness is empathy, the ability to feel for those around you.  When we give someone (human or non human) our full attention --connection follows and kindness and generosity often follow from there.
Interestingly, researchers have found that people who are kind are also happier.  The effects of kindness towards others are 'causal'.....kindness actually causes us to be happier and more satisfied with our lives.
I think all of us can relate that when we become self involved and our worries take center stage we become stressed out!
"One of the healthiest things a person can do is to step back from self-preoccupation and self-worry, as well as from hostile and bitter emotions," writes altruism expert Stephen Post.  "There is no more obvious way of doing this than focusing attention on helping others."
In my own experience I have noticed that often, people who are able to be abusive to animals and children tend to be people who are very self involved with little or no developed ability to care for or have empathy for others. 
Kindness and empathy are ways of being that are taught by modeling and nurtured into being.  Anytime a young person is exposed to someone being kind there is the potential for that ability to grow within them.  Equally when they are exposed to someone who is self involved that is what they learn.
So each time any of us are expressing kindness towards a non-human or human we are making a difference toward a world more kind, a world more gentle, a world more inclusive.

Wishing you all a tickled and beautiful heart,
Love Benny and Raven

1 comment:

  1. When you perform and act of kindness your endorphin levels increase. When you observe an act of kindness, you endorphin levels also increase. Feel better, be kind. Simple.
    Love Benny and Raven's sweet faces.